DEAR ABBY: I recently separated from my husband of 16 years. He is an alcoholic who refuses to seek help. He can’t hold a job or help with household expenses when he does work.

We have been separated for five months, and he feels that I “owe” him another chance. I gave him warning after warning for six years — and there was no change. I continue to tell him repeatedly that I have moved on and I’m tired. Things got so bad I eventually had a mental breakdown and had to seek professional help.

I’m currently in a new relationship, and I have never been so happy. My husband threatens this new man and calls him names. I’m in the process of filing for divorce, but he makes me feel I am obligated to give him the chance to make things right. Am I wrong for wanting to move on?

— END OF MY ROPE IN NEVADA

DEAR END: No, you are not! You have suffered enough, so do not backtrack. You are not obligated to give your alcoholic husband more time than you have already devoted. If you allow him to wear you down, there will only be more of what you have already experienced. (If you are even tempted, call your therapist!)

That he refuses to seek treatment speaks volumes. If you and the new man in your life feel threatened, file a police report.

— ANDREWS MCMEEL

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